Does Your Number Really Matter?
It took me a long time to get the courage to write about this. With the whole rebranding of my site, and the decision to go more in depth about not only my love life, but my sex life came the idea that I have to be completely honest about it all. I'd have to be willing and open to talking about things I've hidden or just be more willing to talk about them. So I decided that for my first topic I'd talk sex partners. How many are too many? Is there such a thing as too many? When did the notion of sleeping with various men mean you are a whore.
"A study conducted by SuperDrug surveyed more than 2,000 people in the US and Europe about their sexual habits and found that the average number of sexual partners a person has in their lifetime is lower than you might think.
According to their findings, the average person who identifies as a woman has seven sexual partners in her life, while a person who identifies as a man has around six."
I'll tell you right now. That's not my number. Mine is much much higher than that, and I'll tell you why...When I was younger and started having sex I figured out just how sexually open and free I was getting. I did this by being with multiple men. I, of course, was careful and made sure safety was first. Condoms and the pill were always on the table. Always. I'm a fat woman and when I was younger I hated my body. To adapt I made myself so sexually free to be more attractive to men so that I may live life easier. I'd try new things in bed, I'd always aimed to please and for a long while, things were glorious. Of course, now I see that the men who truly wanted me for me never saw weight. They wanted to experience the woman within me.
That's when that number of mine grew, & grew some more. I find exploring myself sexually to be very liberating. However, we were raised to believe that if this sexual exploration is to be had it made you a whore. It's in this thinking that the question of how many partners matters comes into play. If you ask me it doesn't. I believe in exploration. I believe in doing that with as many people as you see fit as long as you are careful.
So to answer the question...Does your number really matter? The answer is yes and no. It matters to those who have chosen a different way of thinking while those who think like myself who are willing to try many things...well they couldn't care less.
I'd love to know what you all think on the topic. Leave a comment below and lets talk!